{"id":625,"date":"2017-12-08T18:58:44","date_gmt":"2017-12-08T13:28:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/previewsitesmediasmacksiteserver.com\/gnaupi\/?p=625"},"modified":"2018-08-07T13:28:01","modified_gmt":"2018-08-07T18:28:01","slug":"trying-to-make-custody-work-without-a-legal-battle","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sdinjuryattorney.com\/blog\/trying-to-make-custody-work-without-a-legal-battle\/","title":{"rendered":"Trying To Make Custody Work Without A Legal Battle"},"content":{"rendered":"

New custody trends with working moms<\/strong><\/p>\n

With women getting a strong foothold in the workforce and often becoming the primary breadwinners in some families, traditional child custody outcomes have begun to shift.\u00a0The “tender years” doctrine that provided for\u00a0favor towards mothers during custody battles was abolished by most states by 1994, and now working women are finding it a liability to be career focused when they enter into a custody battle.<\/p>\n

A shift in traditional\u00a0roles has\u00a0created more stay at home fathers, and more mothers who are becoming involved in careers\u00a0that can often be demanding.\u00a0Unfortunately, this shift in trends can significantly affect a mother in the event of a divorce.\u00a0In a recent\u00a0article called \u201cCustody Lost\u201d by Sally\u00a0Abrahms\u00a0for WorkingMother.com<\/a>, one woman found out the effects of pursuing her career and how the court now views working mothers in child custody proceedings.<\/p>\n

After a marriage of 10 years, Julie found herself in the midst of a custody battle to keep her children.\u00a0 She had worked hard for years to support her children while her husband was unemployed and was shocked when he filed for primary custody\u00a0during their divorce.\u00a0Throughout\u00a0the proceedings, her successful\u00a0career was portrayed as so demanding that she was neglecting her children and that her husband marketable skills had been reduced due to not being in the workforce for five years.\u00a0While Julie eventually felt confident of the proceedings she was shocked to find that the court had ruled in her husband’s favor and decided that her career might interfere with primary custody.<\/p>\n

What are the best steps for making custody work?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Unfortunately long, drawn out child custody cases can\u00a0occur during divorces causing both the children and the parents to suffer throughout the process.\u00a0With the changing trend in court custody cases, how can working women find ways to make custody work without suffering the consequences of a devastating court decision?\u00a0 If you are faced with a possible custody dispute, following the steps below may help get you through deciding custody without a long protracted battle.<\/p>\n

Try to focus on parenting, not on the divorce<\/strong><\/p>\n

When discussing\u00a0with your ex how you will tackle the custody and visitation schedule, make sure you focus on what is best to do as parents and leave out the disagreements\u00a0that led you to the split.\u00a0 Discuss your child’s\u00a0schedule, school routine, and other issues that would affect where they should hold primary residence\u00a0or what visitation\u00a0schedule will work best to cause as little disruption as possible in their lives as possible.<\/p>\n

Don’t use the children as leverage<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotions can be extremely heated during a divorce, and one of the easiest ways to hurt the other parent is by withholding their ability to see or spend time with their child. Just because the relationship did not work out between you and your spouse does not mean that each parent’s relationship with their child should not be able to succeed.\u00a0 While it may be hard to always keep a happy face when around your children, learn to at least be cordial to each other when they are around\u00a0and make sure you do not resort to making them messengers or information gatherers during the divorce.<\/p>\n

Is mediation a good option?<\/strong><\/p>\n

While what led to your divorce may seem like there is nothing you will be able to agree on, when it comes to your children, it is worth putting in some effort.\u00a0 Many parents are now testing out the waters of mediation before moving to a court child custody case.\u00a0 It is important to remember that odds are the best person to be a partner in raising your children is your ex so trying to work out a visitation or custody schedule during mediation can not only make things go quicker and smoother but will often be less stressful on the children.<\/p>\n

The vital phrase to remember is “hope for the best, but plan for the worst.”\u00a0 Despite your best efforts, there may be no way to avoid a child custody court case, so it is essential to be prepared from the beginning.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

New custody trends with working moms With women getting a strong foothold in the workforce and often becoming the primary breadwinners in some families, traditional child custody outcomes have begun to shift.\u00a0The “tender years” doctrine that provided for\u00a0favor towards mothers during custody battles was abolished by most states by 1994, and now working women are … Read More Trying To Make Custody Work Without A Legal Battle<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1381,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nHere's How To Make Your Custody Case Work With No Legal Battle<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Unfortunately long, drawn out child custody cases can\u00a0occur during divorces causing both the children and the parents to suffer throughout the legal process.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, 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